The area of child disciplining and temper tantrums is difficult for most parents. If you are one of the many stressed out parents who are trying to deal with temper tantrums you are in good company.
Temper tantrums by their very nature always happen at the most embarrassing times for parents. It's always when friends, family or onlookers are present and you feel least able to deal with it. Always a very emotional event a temper tantrum leaves both parent and child exhausted.
Find out how you can take positive action when a temper tantrum erupts and learn why it happens in the first place by reading on.
It is usually after you have said no to sweets in the supermarket, told your child to get in the car, had to end a playtime or just put their dinner in front of them that you are confronted by an explosive tantrum. It appears that your actions were the cause.
The truth is these are not the cause although they are usually the final event that tipped the scale. It is in fact various forms of stress that lead to temper tantrums.
When stress builds up it needs to be released and a full blown tantrum although scary and emotionally draining for the child actually brings a calm release after it is all over.
As parents we want to stop the tantrum and this is rarely possible. There are things you can do to manage the tantrum which will at least give you something to focus on instead of getting frustrated or angry yourself.
First you need to be able to recognize which type of tantrum you are dealing with. There are two main types of tantrums. One is a control issue and the other is brought on by physical stresses.
When children are seeking your attention or don't get their own way over something their frustration builds up until it becomes a temper tantrum.
In these situations they need you to be very calm and in control yourself. They need acknowledgment that you understand their frustration at not getting what they want but at the same time remaining firm about not giving in to it. You need to empathize but then withdraw, if possible, or continue doing something else.
The other type of tantrum is brought on by physical stresses like tiredness, hunger, over excitement or stimulation. When these tantrums occur the child just gets beyond being able to relax and let you address it with what they really need like food or sleep. Your response to these tantrums should be to give emotional support. They need you to take control of their overwhelming feelings. These are situations when a long tight cuddle and soothing words are needed while the rage passes.
When you know which of these responses you need to give it will help you cope better but you still have to endure the whole ordeal.
There is a better solution and that is to be able to prevent tantrums happening in the first place. To successfully do this you need to learn how and why the stresses build up in the first place and what you can do to manage these.
Temper tantrums by their very nature always happen at the most embarrassing times for parents. It's always when friends, family or onlookers are present and you feel least able to deal with it. Always a very emotional event a temper tantrum leaves both parent and child exhausted.
Find out how you can take positive action when a temper tantrum erupts and learn why it happens in the first place by reading on.
It is usually after you have said no to sweets in the supermarket, told your child to get in the car, had to end a playtime or just put their dinner in front of them that you are confronted by an explosive tantrum. It appears that your actions were the cause.
The truth is these are not the cause although they are usually the final event that tipped the scale. It is in fact various forms of stress that lead to temper tantrums.
When stress builds up it needs to be released and a full blown tantrum although scary and emotionally draining for the child actually brings a calm release after it is all over.
As parents we want to stop the tantrum and this is rarely possible. There are things you can do to manage the tantrum which will at least give you something to focus on instead of getting frustrated or angry yourself.
First you need to be able to recognize which type of tantrum you are dealing with. There are two main types of tantrums. One is a control issue and the other is brought on by physical stresses.
When children are seeking your attention or don't get their own way over something their frustration builds up until it becomes a temper tantrum.
In these situations they need you to be very calm and in control yourself. They need acknowledgment that you understand their frustration at not getting what they want but at the same time remaining firm about not giving in to it. You need to empathize but then withdraw, if possible, or continue doing something else.
The other type of tantrum is brought on by physical stresses like tiredness, hunger, over excitement or stimulation. When these tantrums occur the child just gets beyond being able to relax and let you address it with what they really need like food or sleep. Your response to these tantrums should be to give emotional support. They need you to take control of their overwhelming feelings. These are situations when a long tight cuddle and soothing words are needed while the rage passes.
When you know which of these responses you need to give it will help you cope better but you still have to endure the whole ordeal.
There is a better solution and that is to be able to prevent tantrums happening in the first place. To successfully do this you need to learn how and why the stresses build up in the first place and what you can do to manage these.
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