On Being A Father

By Damian Papworth


Becoming a father for the first time is, of course, a big deal. A new life is something to be cherished and treasured and yet at the same time, it's quite a significant change. There's someone new coming into your life that you will be responsible for; its your job to make sure your child grows up with a solid roof over his/her head, that there's enough love to go around, that everything is as it should be.

Fatherhood brings about newfound accountability-a sense of responsibility for a new life is nothing to be taken lightly. Things do change. As a matter of fact, the transition can be a tough period, both emotionally and physically. Caring for a new life can takes it toll. It may be hard to realize just how much your life changes when you've got a child to care for.

Being a father means that your entire life is turned upside down. Changes are going to come.

Obviously, this brings up some tensions coupled with a good deal of anxiety and apprehension. When a huge, life changing event such as becoming a new dad is at hand, some people tend to panic, others become distraught and frustrated. But the good news is that these reactions are normal. It's a very natural reaction.

It can be a difficult time in fact, but confronting the common fears that new dads and dads to be are facing can be quite helpful.

Here's a look at some of the common worries and fears that face new dads to be.

One major issue revolves around the topic of money. Most people aren't wealthy and having another mouth to feed in the household does cost some serious dough. Expect to pull those purse strings so to speak. Saving is a necessity. On average, new parents probably will put down some $10,000 on their child. Medical expenses, new furniture, baby food, diapers, clothes, toys, and the list goes on and on.

Careful planning and tight budgeting are a necessity of preparing for a new child. You do have to make some concessions. You can live a more simple, less consumption oriented lifestyle. Keep in mind too that babies don't require all the latest toys or the newest clothes-all they really need is some TLC, tender, loving care.

Another big concern that often comes up has to do with health issues. Many parents, both mothers and fathers to be, are worried about what could go wrong. What would happen if their child's health is at risk in some way? The good news is that there are solid statistics to reassure even the most nervous of soon to be parents-fully 96-97% of all children are born without any health issues at all. The key is to focus on staying positive and keeping a glass half full attitude. Don't worry.

Yet another apprehension that tends to distress all new fathers and fathers to be is the fear of being an inadequate or bad parent. It is, of course, a very common fear. Yet, the mere fact of being worried simply reinforces the reality that you will be a good father. Caring goes a long way.

When it comes to being a father just remember all you need is love.




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