Tips on How to Challenge Your Children

By Willis Richy


When you think about it, you are parenting even when you do not realize it. Children learn huge amounts by simply observing others, and most of the time it is observing their parents. That can be the scary part because we all have things about us that we probably would prefer our children did not emulate. That is not a criticism of anybody but rather a statement about human nature. Life is just what it is, and we all have plenty of our good and not-so-good days. It is the latter that has the potential to provide for less than optimal learning experiences for children. We know it is the supreme effort to be conscious of our behavior when around our children, and all anyone can do is just do the best we can.

Experiencing peer pressure while in school is something that most kids have to go through. This can be a very tense time for teenagers in particular as the peer pressure becomes more extreme. Kids do not like to admit they are experiencing this, so the majority of parents will be unaware that it is occurring. To help out your teenager, you need to express your willingness to support them no matter what. If you have a robust connection with your kids, and they have a strong will, things will end up okay. You can always deal with these situations in the same way. Situations such as this can be extremely hard to handle at times. One of the easiest ways to tackle this is to be direct and ask if they currently are feeling pressure to do anything they don't want to do. Everyone can think back to their days as a kid and not feeling adequate in some way. It's hard to forget such a painful memory like that. To avoid as many painful situations as possible, you need to keep an eye on the emotions your child shows when they are participating in anything. Don't push your child into an activity if they really are not enjoying it. Don't do all the talking about why they should or shouldn't do the activity. It is so much better to listen first and then give wisdom on what to do. Even though it may not be easy, it's a good idea to show your children how they fit into the big picture with their skills and see if there is another way they can succeed.

When you were a child, were you ever forced to do something that you could not stand to do, by one of your parents? This isn't about things that are required of everyone, like taking out the trash, or washing dishes. Taking piano lessons, or having to try out for a particular sport, is the big thing that can be hard for children.

It is great to push a child, and support a child, but this should only be in the direction the child would like to go, because it won't profit much if the child doesn't have desire. Nothing is more frustrating than watching a child try to live up to a parents expectation when there is no desire. Parents should find out what their children have passion for and push them in that direction by being honest about their abilities.

You will be put to the test in your parenting experience by a thousand different situations. In many different ways this becomes a test for you and your spouse. Being consistent in raising a child will change you and your spouse and make all of you better for the effort you put in.




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