When it comes to the control of a kid or children after a divorce, there are many risks and rewards concerned. If the two parents, in spite of their differences can work together, things become much better for all involved. But for people that can't there are lots of risks involved. Here's a list of some of the child custody risks and rewards.
1.Parent Alienation Syndrome- For many parents, they've a certain way that they do things and certain ideas as to the proper way to raise a kid. If there is animosity between the elders, this can lead to parent alienation syndrome, which essentially means that one parent has a tendency to drop out of the image of raising the kids. While this can doubtless be a bonus so far as not being forced to handle a possibly violent previous better half, for lots of folks this may be a major negative as the children lose the influence of that parent and the help of a further standpoint.
2.Child Support- This may be a given in some states, especially if the parent with custody of the child or kids is on state help, but the formulas and rules that child support are governed by are rarely actually helpful and except for the part where one partner is paying, the utilisation of that money is rarely questioned. The money always must be paid, even if visitation is not being given as court ordered. This can work both ways however and if an ex knows how enough to game the system, they can find out how to still get visitation without paying child support. This manifestly then works against the parent which has custody of the children.
3.Single Parent Struggles- Being a single parent can be exceedingly tough for both the parent with custody and the one without. The one with custody may envy the parent without for having more spare time and the power to do more of what they what when they desire, but the parent without custody might happily give all that liberty up simply to spend some more time with the kids that they love dearly. Ideally moms and pops live a fair distance from each other and may be able to help one another out and give one another breaks from and additional time with the children as required. Being a single parent is never a straightforward thing, and while the stigma attached to it has lessened significantly over the past few decades, it's still a struggle to balance everything, on each side. Keep this under consideration the next time your ex is driving you crazy.
Having custody of your kid or kids is different for everybody, and being on the other end of the stick is the same way. Remember that nothing that occurred in your relationship was the child's fault and that to your kids, every time you bad mouth your ex, you're bad mouthing their mom or pop, and denigrating part of their self-image too. You may not entirely agree with everything they do, and vice versa, but you are the folks now. Act like one.
1.Parent Alienation Syndrome- For many parents, they've a certain way that they do things and certain ideas as to the proper way to raise a kid. If there is animosity between the elders, this can lead to parent alienation syndrome, which essentially means that one parent has a tendency to drop out of the image of raising the kids. While this can doubtless be a bonus so far as not being forced to handle a possibly violent previous better half, for lots of folks this may be a major negative as the children lose the influence of that parent and the help of a further standpoint.
2.Child Support- This may be a given in some states, especially if the parent with custody of the child or kids is on state help, but the formulas and rules that child support are governed by are rarely actually helpful and except for the part where one partner is paying, the utilisation of that money is rarely questioned. The money always must be paid, even if visitation is not being given as court ordered. This can work both ways however and if an ex knows how enough to game the system, they can find out how to still get visitation without paying child support. This manifestly then works against the parent which has custody of the children.
3.Single Parent Struggles- Being a single parent can be exceedingly tough for both the parent with custody and the one without. The one with custody may envy the parent without for having more spare time and the power to do more of what they what when they desire, but the parent without custody might happily give all that liberty up simply to spend some more time with the kids that they love dearly. Ideally moms and pops live a fair distance from each other and may be able to help one another out and give one another breaks from and additional time with the children as required. Being a single parent is never a straightforward thing, and while the stigma attached to it has lessened significantly over the past few decades, it's still a struggle to balance everything, on each side. Keep this under consideration the next time your ex is driving you crazy.
Having custody of your kid or kids is different for everybody, and being on the other end of the stick is the same way. Remember that nothing that occurred in your relationship was the child's fault and that to your kids, every time you bad mouth your ex, you're bad mouthing their mom or pop, and denigrating part of their self-image too. You may not entirely agree with everything they do, and vice versa, but you are the folks now. Act like one.
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