I want to share with you a parenting tip that can work wonders in helping you the parent, create a wonderful parent teenager relationship. Interestingly, the more you can keep your mouth shut the better results you will get.
Lets' get started. Decide today to do the following. Start a conversation with your teenager where they do the bulk of the talking. You commit to pure listening and learning. Just by taking this action alone can make a massive difference in the quality of your parent teenager relationship.
Now if you need some conversation starters, here's a couple. Let's pretend that your teenager's name is "Joe".
The first conversation starter could go like this: "Hi Ben, today it occurred to me that so many teenagers must feel the weight of pressure and expectation from society. Being a teenager is no easy ride."
Lets' get started. Decide today to do the following. Start a conversation with your teenager where they do the bulk of the talking. You commit to pure listening and learning. Just by taking this action alone can make a massive difference in the quality of your parent teenager relationship.
Now if you need some conversation starters, here's a couple. Let's pretend that your teenager's name is "Joe".
The first conversation starter could go like this: "Hi Ben, today it occurred to me that so many teenagers must feel the weight of pressure and expectation from society. Being a teenager is no easy ride."
The second conversation starter could go like this: "Ben I used to be a teenager. I recall the time when my parents used to get under my skin. Which causes me to think that I am perhaps doing or saying things that are getting under your skin?"
Another way of approaching it, is to select an experience that your teen had and zoom in on their emotional state. For example: "Hi John, you looked really mad when your best friend didn't appear when they were supposed to". In any case, whatever approach you take to get your teenager on side, bear in mind that the goal is to develop your parent teenager relationship.
Here's the scoop for putting this tip into action to bring your parent teenager relationship to a whole new level. Make a point to not instruct, advise or lecture. The only comments you can make are ones that provide encouragement. Feedback like "okay I hear what you are saying", "that makes sense", "can you tell me more?" "h'mm", "I like that".
The next type of feedback is checking for listening. This is where you ask questions to determine how much you have listened and understood what your teenager has just told you. For instance, you could say " Ben, let me just reflect back to you what you have just said...[briefly summarize what you believe your teenager has just said]"
Should you make the decision to apply this tip, its a great chance for you to know about what your teenager is feeling and thinking- the bad, the ugly and the good.
The first time you do this you may experience that your teenager does not share their thoughts. If so, don't be pushy. Just back off and give it a crack again the very next day but using a different conversation starter. If need be, just keep doing it until your teenager decides to open up.
Be ready if your teenager decides that it is his opportunity to load you up with all of their pet grievances. If so, stay calm and know that all this is par for the course in transforming
Another way of approaching it, is to select an experience that your teen had and zoom in on their emotional state. For example: "Hi John, you looked really mad when your best friend didn't appear when they were supposed to". In any case, whatever approach you take to get your teenager on side, bear in mind that the goal is to develop your parent teenager relationship.
Here's the scoop for putting this tip into action to bring your parent teenager relationship to a whole new level. Make a point to not instruct, advise or lecture. The only comments you can make are ones that provide encouragement. Feedback like "okay I hear what you are saying", "that makes sense", "can you tell me more?" "h'mm", "I like that".
The next type of feedback is checking for listening. This is where you ask questions to determine how much you have listened and understood what your teenager has just told you. For instance, you could say " Ben, let me just reflect back to you what you have just said...[briefly summarize what you believe your teenager has just said]"
Should you make the decision to apply this tip, its a great chance for you to know about what your teenager is feeling and thinking- the bad, the ugly and the good.
The first time you do this you may experience that your teenager does not share their thoughts. If so, don't be pushy. Just back off and give it a crack again the very next day but using a different conversation starter. If need be, just keep doing it until your teenager decides to open up.
Be ready if your teenager decides that it is his opportunity to load you up with all of their pet grievances. If so, stay calm and know that all this is par for the course in transforming
The next type of feedback is checking for listening. This is where you ask questions to determine how much you have listened and understood what your teenager has just told you. For instance, you could say " Ben, let me just reflect back to you what you have just said...[briefly summarize what you believe your teenager has just said]"
Should you make the decision to apply this tip, its a great chance for you to know about what your teenager is feeling and thinking- the bad, the ugly and the good.
The first time you do this you may experience that your teenager does not share their thoughts. If so, don't be pushy. Just back off and give it a crack again the very next day but using a different conversation starter. If need be, just keep doing it until your teenager decides to open up.
Be ready if your teenager decides that it is his opportunity to load you up with all of their pet grievances. If so, stay calm and know that all this is par for the course in transforming your parent teenager relationship. In so doing, your teenager will most likely warm up to you.
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Should you make the decision to apply this tip, its a great chance for you to know about what your teenager is feeling and thinking- the bad, the ugly and the good.
The first time you do this you may experience that your teenager does not share their thoughts. If so, don't be pushy. Just back off and give it a crack again the very next day but using a different conversation starter. If need be, just keep doing it until your teenager decides to open up.
Be ready if your teenager decides that it is his opportunity to load you up with all of their pet grievances. If so, stay calm and know that all this is par for the course in transforming your parent teenager relationship. In so doing, your teenager will most likely warm up to you.
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Parenting authority Paul Saver has worked professionally and personally with teenagers for more than thirty years. Get Paul's 7 FREE videos each consisting of a top parenting strategy that when implemented can revolutionize your parent teenager relationshipso that you and your teen can live happier and more satisfying lives.